i dunno yknow. i think you're tarring it all with the same brush. sonically there's no reason why the pallette of grime music is any less interesting than that of other music, especially paint by numbers boom bap or dj shadow imitators, which to me are some of the most sonically uninspired examples of recorded music around. and also to be a bit gay and ethereal, stop listening to the music so much and listen to yourself, padwan/padame (which one's for boys, i never watched star wars hehe). discover the subconscious desire you will.